Tuesday, July 05, 2011

Home: What is it?

What does it mean to be "home"?

I have been thinking about this a lot lately for a variety of reasons and haven't found an answer, yet. I thought I could put my stream-of-consciousness out there and get some opinions on the matter from all of you.

I have lived the majority of my life in Hawaii, in various places with various people. The other not-majority of my life, I have spent in Massachusetts and Japan. In each of these places, I have experienced wonders and met adversity and had my life touched by both beautiful and ugly people. All of these places carry fond memories for me, but also can evoke within me the deepest, most painful emotions one can feel. Each time I head to any of these places (although it's been years since I was in Massachusetts), I get giddy and excited to be back. Yet, I also find that the longer that I stay in these places, the more restless I become. I find reasons to leave and then wonder if leaving was, indeed, the right choice.

If any of these places were my "home", would I keep wanting to walk away from them? Is it not that I am displeased with the place itself, but rather, that I am unsatisfied with myself or my life in that place? Or is it that I simply haven't found, yet, where I need to be? That I need to travel more and seek out where it is that I can finally settle, drop anchor, make myself truly at home? Are there people out there who never find this personal utopia? 

And in another train of thought, is "home" not a physical place at all? Is it a state-of-mind or sense of contentment? Or is it simply an understanding of or proximity to "things of importance"? Love, good friends, family, food, faith (for some)... 

It seems that sitting alone with my thoughts hasn't led in any real direction, unless "around in a circle" is considered a direction. 

I would love to hear your thoughts and opinions on what "home" means or doesn't mean to you. Please, tell me. 

Home: What is it?



Panda said...

I think "home" is the place (whether in your head/body or a physical place) where you feel the safest. This is why some people can consider where ever their significant other is "home" because it isn't so much a physical structure or location that resonates it, but the person who they feel safest with.

I don't think traveling and wanting to be away from a particular place necessarily means that you can't consider it home. Home is what becomes a part of you, that you can take where ever you may travel to. It is what centers and possibly calms you when you focus your thoughts towards it.

Hope this helps chi =)

Unknown said...

To me that old saying "home is where the heart is" rings true. Home is the place where your most loved ones are, and/or where you most long to be, or return to when you are traveling. I myself love to get away and travel, but I always find myself wanting to return home to Hawaii. I do sometimes get bored and restless with life here, but I always come back home.

Try to think about where your most numerous and strongest social and emotional ties are. Is that the same place where you feel most comfortable with yourself and your surroundings? If it is, then I would say that is "Home". It might not necessarily be one static place since it can always change when you make more stronger connections in other places, and one of those other places becomes the place where you would go seek refuge.

Joe G. said...

It's where all your stuff is. I hate to say it but material is home. You can love family, friends, lovers, blah blah blah. But what defines you right now are the things you own and what you do with them. Even Mother Theresa had a bucket.

You can move anywhere, but it won't feel like home until you choose where to put your books.

When we die, our things are gone and people remember you for what you did. Material is meaningless then. But now, it defines you.